Are You a Kind Mom?

Are You a Kind Mom?

This article is partially excerpted from our all-new Indwelt Bible Study Guide: Zealous. To learn more about the Study Guide, please visit here

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good,
and so train the young women to love their husbands and children,
to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
— Titus 2:3-5

"Kind" - According to Strong's Definitions, the root word for "kind" is also used as "good".

On a scale of 1-10, with 1 being the lowest and 10 the highest, how kind are you to your children?

Do you yell at them more than you talk with them gently?
Do you display annoyance or irritation more than you display affection?
If someone were to broadcast your interactions with your kids, would they cringe or would they see a display of God's grace and truth?

I believe we all love our children. Kindness is a natural outflow of love. So why do we struggle with being kind to our children, whom we love so dearly?

My Kids Are In The Way of What I Want

Okay, probably no one actually says this phrase out loud. But if you think about it, that's exactly the mindset you have: you want something but your kids are keeping you from getting it.

What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you?
— James 4:1

You want sleep. When your little one gets up in the middle of the night refusing to go back to sleep, the fire of anger consumes you.
You want to host a beautiful gathering at your home. When your little one spills Kool-aid all over the floor MINUTES before your guests arrive, you bark at your kids and grumpily wipe up the mess.
You want to be on time for church. When your little one JUST WON'T GET INTO their car seat, you yell and you threat.

These things that you want are probably good things. I'm not saying it's bad to want sleep (I love sleep, in case anyone is wondering. Plus, we all need sleep.), but the question is "is your desire for ______ causing you to sin against your children?" I encourage you to take a minute and recall the last time you yelled at your kids, what did you want at the moment? What were the underlying motives for your annoyance/irritation? Did you want to control the outcome of doing certain things? Did you want to appear put together?

Ask God to search your heart, mama. Confess and repent; and ask your children for forgiveness.

PS if you need help examining your heart, these 20 questions by Tim Keller might help you.

God's Grace and Truth on Display

In the book of Titus, we are not given a list of characteristics so we can look good. We are called to be representatives of God's grace and truth so that His Word may not be dishonored. As mothers, we can adorn His Grace + Truth beautifully through our interactions with our kids.

When we are patient with our kids, we display how God has been patient with us.
When we extend grace to our kids in spite of disrespect or disobedience, we display how God has showered us with grace.
By living out God's Word, we are giving onlookers a testimony of what God is like. We are displaying real-life examples that support His Word. 

Will you display God's Grace + Truth through your mothering today?

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful.
— 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

Love is patient, love is kind. If we love our children as much as we say we do, we need to love them through our actions. They need to see our love for them. Moreover, let us Christ-followers show non-believers how God loves us through how we love our kids.

This article is partially excerpted from our all-new Indwelt Bible Study Guide: Zealous. To learn more about the Study Guide, please visit here

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