How to Teach Children Humility
It was almost 2:30 pm, my 10-month-old should be getting up from his nap anytime soon while my toddler was overdue for his nap.
Looking at the bowl full of applesauce, I still had quite a few baby food pouches to make. I was in a rush.
My toddler, being the independent "big boy" but wanted to help mommy with her food pouches, insisted on pushing the applesauce down through the tube and into the pouches.
As well intended as a toddler was, in my eyes he was slow, he was interrupting my workflow, he was in my way of getting things done fast.
"Oh no!" his little voice proclaimed as he got applesauce everywhere.
By now, I'd had it. I yelled, "Stop! Just stop! You are making a mess! You're not being helpful at all!"
My hardheaded 2.5 year old yelled back, "NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!! No!! No!!"
Right then and there, I felt guilty. I felt convicted cause I had just written about being a kind mom the other day.
Knowing I was in the wrong, there was only one thing I needed to do right now:
I needed to apologize to him.
Walk the Talk
If you ask a bunch of parents what characteristics they want their children to have, you'll probably get "humble" quite a bit. We don't want our children to be a group of prideful brats. We want them to live humbly.
The Bible teaches humility. God wants His children to be humble. Many times it appears in the Bible "humble yourself".
It is clear that humility is a desired God-honoring characteristic. So how do we teach our children to be humble? Children learn humility best when they see it lived out by their parents.
We cannot teach our children about humility using our words but live a prideful life. That's hypocrisy. They need to see us messed up (because we will), see us acknowledge our sins and see us lay down our pride to own our mistakes.
Why? Because by laying down our pride, we are saying to God, "my pride does not belong on the throne - you do." When our children see that, they will also learn who truly belongs on the throne.
Parenting is a Two-Way Sanctification
As you raise up your children and teach them the way to go according to God's Truth, God is also sanctifying you.
I'll be honest. It's hard for me to admit to my 2-year-old I'm in the wrong. It hurts my pride. But that is exactly why I need to take this humble pie. God is using my children to make me more like Jesus. He uses them to stretch me, to make me more selfless, patient... and humble.
One of the greatest missions as a parent is to teach our children about God. By laying ourselves down and surrendering to God's authority and sovereignty in our own lives, we are giving our children the greatest lessons on how to live humbly for Him.