#010: 7 Truths to Remember in the Newborn Days
Hey, hey, welcome back to the Indwelt Women Podcast! This is Maggie Baker.
Today we're going to talk about 7 truths to remember during the newborn days.
Here's why it's important: when we are in this new season of welcoming a new baby, emotions can run high and I know for myself, having had two kids, I did not like the newborn days. Especially with my first one. I was sleep deprived and my emotions were running high and I got irritated really easily. And, you know, these emotions if we let them, they could dictate what we do and all that and a lot of times if we let emotions guide us we don't remember the truth that God has given us.
So I want this episode to be a reminder of the truth, of the promises that God has given us especially for these newborn days. So let's dig right in.
Truth #1: God loves your baby more than you ever could
This baby that you've been waiting for is finally here. The baby is so beautiful and so loved and you're just staring at the baby while it sleeps. And then all of a sudden, it hits you. You realize the weight of raising a brand-new human. The well-being of this beautiful baby is now in your hands. This baby could turn out to be the most influential human being or it could be a total wreck. And gosh, you hope it won't be the latter.
This pressure could break you if you let it which is why it's so important to remember that this baby that you so love, that this baby you wanna give your best to is so so loved by God.
In fact, God loves your baby exponentially more than you ever could so much so that he sent Jesus to take your baby's place so that He could have an eternal relationship with your baby.
John 3:16 says, "for God so loved the world that he gave his only son that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life."
God did it for you, God did it for your baby that you have in your arms right now. That truth is so freeing because it takes the pressure off of you because your baby is in good hands which is the second truth that I want you to remember.
Truth #2: Your baby is in good hands
Because God loves your baby, you know for a fact that your baby is in good hands. Your baby is in the hands of the one who created the universe. Your baby is well taken care of by the Heavenly Father who created him or her.
Psalm 139: 13-14 says, "for you formed my inward parts, you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works, my soul knows it very well."
And guess what? God knitted you in your mother's womb and in the same way He knitted your baby's parts in your womb. He knows your baby inside out; He created your baby. Your baby is well taken care of because he has a Heavenly Father who loves him, who knows and who wants the best for him. I want you to sit in that truth, knowing that this pressure, you don't have to bear it all on your shoulder, you can submit it to Jesus and let Him take the load.
Truth #3: Feed your baby's soul
The third truth that I want you to remember is as you feed your baby's body don't forget to feed its soul. You have been given the privilege of influencing your child's life. While you nourish your child physically and mentally, don't forget to feed him spiritually.
Deuteronomy 6:7 says, "you shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise."
Scripture says teach your child about God all the time you can pass on the legacy of faith in Christ and you maybe thinking, well my baby is just two weeks old he doesn't even know what his name is, isn't it too early to start teaching him about God?"
Well, yes, it's true that your baby doesn't even understand the English language but at this stage it's really more about building the habit in you. It's about you practicing how to teach your child about God.
I don't know about you but it doesn't come natural to me to connect everyday life things to God and to the Gospel. I have to try really hard and so if I don't start practicing now I might be missing out on chances to point my kids to the light when they're older and can understand deeper things.
So it's really all about giving ourselves the opportunity to practice, to talk about God, to connect everything to God starting now.
Another reason to start now is if you don't start now you may not start later. It's the mindset of "oh, I'll do it later". Well, by the time later comes along, your child may already be packing up for college. I'm not trying to be harsh but I'd rather not take chances procrastinating in one of the most important things you can teach your child so please start the habit now. It's never too early to start talking about God. Start now.
Truth #4: God is not asking you to be a perfect mom
With Instagram, Facebook and Pinterest, we see a lot of how other moms are doing and what they're doing. We always see, "oh look at that, she's making all these organic homemade food or she has this and this and this for their kids." It's so easy for us to get into the comparison trap and only think about what we're not doing or it's easy for us to feel like we have to do all these things that these moms are doing. The thing is God is not asking you to be a perfect mom. He is asking you to do all things for His glory. He is asking you to teach your child about Him like Deuteronomy 6:7 says and He is asking you to embody the grace and truth found in Jesus Christ.
When you look at motherhood through this lens, you will realize that you don't really have to be all to your kids. You don't have to try to be the person that you're not. Embrace who God made you. Embrace this season of life you're in. And maybe this is not your first baby, maybe you already have three or four kids at home and so trying to do all these things is not always possible.
S I want you to just lay down this burden and this pressure to be the perfect mom. Lift it up to Jesus.
Jesus says in Matthew 11:30, "for my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
Take His yoke, take His burden. It is not as heavy as this other Instagram mom that you're following.
Truth #5: You are of great significance
The 5th truth I have for you is: what you do have great significance.
You are given a calling to steward the soul that God knitted Himself, a soul that God has a great purpose for.
You are laying the foundation and raising this child up to do what God has planned for him. Don't let your feelings deceive you into thinking that what you do is not worth anything. Don't let Satan deceive you into thinking that.
Ephesians 2:10 says, "For we are his workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them."
What you are doing is a legacy. You are building a legacy that can get passed on generations after generations. Don't overlook what you do even if you feel like you're only changing diapers, nursing or giving the baby a bottle.
All these little things build up to the big moments. All these little moments will lead to growing a person that is going to fulfill God's plans for him
Truth #6: Your worth is not in checking off your to-do list
Your worth is not in how many tasks you checked off on your to-do list today.
Your worth is not in how tidy you keep your home. Your worth is in the righteousness Jesus has bought you with His blood.
2 Corinthians 5:21 says, "for our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin. So that in him, you might become the righteousness of God."
Your righteousness has already been fulfilled in Jesus. You don't have to try to do all these things to be approved by men. You are already approved by God - the One who created the universe. The one who created you.
In His eyes, you are perfect because of Jesus. Don't try to do all these things in an attempt to get approval by men, by these men that God created.
Remember your righteousness is in Christ and you are well loved and well approved in His Eyes.
Truth #7: Your way is not the higher way
The 7th truth that I want you to remember is that your husband, or other family members of yours, can love and care for your baby just as well.
This is a truth that I needed when I first became a mom. I knew how long my firstborn would nurse for, I knew how he liked to be rocked, I knew how he preferred to have one arm sticking out of his swaddle. I knew these things because I was always with him.
And so when other people, my husband included, tried to care for the baby. On the inside, I was critical of how they were taking care of my baby.
Don't get me wrong - yes, I did know more about my baby because I spent the most time with him. But it doesn't mean that the way my husband was caring for the baby was wrong.
Just because I'm the mom and I know all the little things about the baby and his routine, it doesn't make my way the higher way. My husband, while he did things a little differently when he was taking care of our newborn, he loved on our son in his own unique fatherly way.
In the same way, your baby's grandmother can love on your baby in her own unique way. The baby's uncle can love on your baby in his own unique way.
Your way is not the only way to love and care for your baby.
1 Corinthians 12:14 says, "For the body does not consist of one member but of many."
We're all trying to love and care for your baby and we can all contribute to the well-being of the baby in our own unique ways.
So don't disregard or dismiss how people are trying to love your baby. We are all bringing our own unique love to this baby.
And what a blessing it is that your baby is so loved by so many family members. Think about that. There are babies out there that don't have families. They are orphans and they don't have anyone that loves them.
So it really is a blessing that your family loves your baby so much. I want you to look at it from a different perspective and really see it as a blessing and embrace it.
I'm praying for you that you will become such a reflection of God's grace and truth in your children's lives. Actually, let me just pray for you right now:
Dear, Lord. I lift up the women listening to this podcast right now, especially those with new baby in their homes. I pray that You will watch over these families. I pray that You will watch over the souls of these babies, of these moms, that they will not let Satan's lies to guide them. I pray that they will not let their emotions to guide them but rather they would fix their eyes on Your truth, on who they are in Christ, knowing that they are in good hands, that their babies are in good hands, that all you care about is that they would do this motherhood thing wholeheartedly for You and for your glory, to reflect Christ, to be Christ's ambassadors and to teach their children all about You. That's what matters. That is what it boils down to, Lord. I just lift up these moms to you. I pray that they will become such a reflection of Christ as they raise up children and I pray for these children that they will run after your heart as they grow and they will become such great Christ ambassadors as well. I pray these things in Jesus' name, Amen.