Are You Kind to Yourself? Replacing self-talk with God-talk

This article is partially excerpted from our all-new Indwelt Bible Study Guide: Zealous. To learn more about the Study Guide, please visit here

A couple days ago, I talked about being a kind mom. Today I wanna focus on you.

On a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being the lowest and 10 the highest, how kind are you to yourself in your thought life? Do you self-sabotage with criticisms and judgments? Do you focus on the bad more than the good?

For me, I'm not kind to myself at all. I'm hyper-critical. And the dangerous thing is: it's really subtle. Whenever things would go bad or whenever I do something "dumb", my mind immediately jumps to thoughts like these:

"Wow, that was dumb. Really? How could you be so stupid?"
"What were you thinking? That was dumb!"
"That was the stupidest thing ever."

Often times, I catch myself dwelling on these thoughts and falling into this bottomless pit of believing maybe I AM that dumb. If you find yourself having self-sabotaging thoughts, you need to replace them with the Truth immediately... and over and over again.

How Sabotaging Self Talk Ruins You

And he said, “What comes out of a person is what defiles him. For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person.”
— Mark 7:20-23

According to Strong's Definitions, "defile" can also be translated into "pollute". What a strong imagery that is!
What we think of ourselves pollute us. Period.
We need to assess closely what enters our minds so we can take every thought captive and replace each one with the Truth. But how do we do that?

Take Every Thought Captive & Replace Lies with Truths

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
— Philippians 4:8
take every thought captive to obey Christ.
— 2 Corinthians 10:5

We are commanded to think what is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, excellent, and worthy of praise. Whenever you catch yourself thinking of things that don't go under any of these categories, say a quick prayer and surrender it to God. And then replace or rephrase the thought with one that IS true/honorable/just, etc.

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To put this into practice, let's spend a few minutes checking your heart:
- Grab a piece of paper and draw a vertical line in the middle.
- On the left side, write down what you think of yourself negatively.
- On the other side, write down the Truths that prove you wrong. Write down what God thinks of you according to Scripture.

Let the truths sink in. Immerse yourself in it. Repeat it to yourself day in and day out. Let your mind be renewed so you'll see yourself as God sees you.

To help you with this exercise, feel free to use this chart excerpted from our latest Indwelt Bible Study Guide, Zealous

to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.
— Ephesians 4:22-24
be transformed by the renewal of your mind.
— Romans 12:2

Matching our thoughts to God's will take time. But by doing so consistently, you will slowly see a renewal of your mind in thought patterns and also in your actions and speech. 

Is this something you struggle with? What verses help renew your mind?

Additional resource:

1) Jennifer Rothschild has a message on Revive Our Hearts about our thought closet. I have benefited from her teaching greatly. Check it out here.
2) I have some journal pages you are welcomed to download and print off as many as you want for your own personal prayer journaling use. Download it here.

This article is partially excerpted from our all-new Indwelt Bible Study Guide: Zealous. To learn more about the Study Guide, please visit here