#040: God's Purpose for You as a Stay at Home Mom
My firstborn was a couple months old when I felt this sense of unworthiness and insignificance.
I thought that all I was doing was: feed the baby (be a milk cow, basically), change diapers, eat and (try to) sleep;
I thought that the world was out there accomplishing great things while I was "stuck" at home doing insignificant work.
Have you ever felt that way?
If you have, Romans 15 might encourage you:
"because of the grace given me by God to be a minister of Christ Jesus to the Gentiles in the priestly service of the gospel of God, so that the offering of the Gentiles may be acceptable, sanctified by the Holy Spirit. In Christ Jesus, then, I have reason to be proud of my work for God. For I will not venture to speak of anything except what Christ has accomplished through me to bring the Gentiles to obedience—by word and deed,by the power of signs and wonders, by the power of the Spirit of God—so that from Jerusalem and all the way around to Illyricum I have fulfilled the ministry of the gospel of Christ; and thus I make it my ambition to preach the gospel, not where Christ has already been named, lest I build on someone else’s foundation"
A Minister of Christ Jesus
Paul was a minister to the Gentiles;
he made it his ambition to preach the gospel where it was not heard.
The little ones you've been blessed with? They are like the Gentiles here in Romans 15.
They don't know the depth of God's love for them;
they have zero ideas they need a Savior and they don't know the price that cost Jesus to be their Savior. They don't know the eternal life that is available to them as soon as they proclaim Jesus as their Lord and Savior.
Who is more fitting to preach the Gospel to them but you?
You are the minister of Christ Jesus to the little Gentiles in your home.
Your job is to preach to them the Gospel of Jesus so they may be brought to obedience.
Your job is far from unworthy and insignificant.
Your impact could make a difference for generations to come.
Don't let Satan tempt you into thinking what you do doesn't matter.
It is important to God - God didn't make you a mom because everyone else was too busy doing great things and you were available. No, He had a great purpose in mind when He gave you your kids.
4 Ways to Make Your Home The Greatest Mission Field
So what can you do this week to teach your little ones about the Gospel?
1) Be in the Word
You can't be a minister of Christ Jesus if you're not drawing from the Word first.
Right now you're probably thinking, "I know I'm supposed to read but I don't have time!"
That is precisely why Indwelt Women exists.
We publish bite-sized Bible studies so that you can study the Word of God when you're waiting in line to pick up your kids from school, so that you can be fed the Truth at the park when your kids are playing.
The daily Bible study lessons in our studies will not take you an hour to complete - ain't nobody got time for that! We break the Scriptures apart so each day you're only spending 5-10 minutes a day to dwell on one (or two) verses.
With the help of guided questions, videos, cross-references, translation comparisons, word studies, and discussion groups, these bite-sized studies will transform and renew your mind through the power of the Word.
A transformed mind by the power of the Word translates to a heart that pours out to your family with a cup that is filled with Truth, a heart that bears the fruits of the Spirit in your daily interactions with your kids and husband.
2) Be Constant in Prayer (Romans 12:12)
You are the messenger that brings the good news to your children but you can't convert their hearts on your own. You need the power of the Holy Spirit - it is only through God that your children will have a heart change that goes from not recognizing their needs for a Savior to falling at Jesus' feet proclaiming Him as their Lord and Savior.
So be a prayer warrior for your children's hearts. Your prayers are so very powerful.
If you are looking for a resource on praying for your children, Stormie O'Martian has a great collection of books that will help you with that - especially this one called The Power of a Praying Mom.
3) Saturate Your Children's Hearts with the Gospel
Basically, tell them about Jesus all. the. time.
Read the Bible with them (This Jesus Storybook Bible is amazing - my kids love them and even I get stuff out of it myself)
Find every opportunity you can to talk about God. When you go on a nature walk, point it out that everything is made by God. When you talk about your family members, point it out that God made all of them and God loves every single one of them.
Connect all the details in your children's lives to God so they will make the connection that a) the world does not revolve around them, and b) everything is made for God, through God, and by God.
Discipline your children in a Gospel-centered way - don't discipline out of anger and shine the light on their need for Jesus. Elyze Fitzpatrick has a great book, Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus, that helps you discipline in grace and truth.
As someone who didn't grow up in a Christian, it wasn't modeled for me how to guide my children in grace but also be grounded in truth. So Elyze Fitzpatrick's book has been so helpful because she walks you through exactly what you can say in the different situations.
Also, confession time: disciplining out of anger is something I've been working on. I'm a yeller - but I've been getting better at not yelling. God's been so faithful in teaching me patience and in training me to be a kind mom.
Model the Gospel yourself. Be humble, admit it when you've blown it and ask for forgiveness. Your kids need to see your need for Jesus and they need to see you going to Jesus for help. If you simply tell your kids they need Jesus but they don't see that modeled in you, it will be very hard for them to desire Jesus themselves. They will not have that kind of heart change that converts them, instead of simply doing all the Christian-y stuff you've taught them. As soon as they leave the home, they will abandon the faith they grew up in.
4) Be in Community with Other Moms
Be in the lives of other moms, especially those who are a few steps ahead.
I have been blessed with a great community of moms that love Jesus, of moms that want to teach their kids about Jesus. It's a blessing to learn from them and to be encouraged by them.
Motherhood is so hard - so mentally, emotionally, spiritually draining - in training up these little sinners. That is why it's so refreshing and uplifting to have these other moms come alongside you.
Friend, what you do day in and day out matters.
You are not just "stuck" at home doing meaningless tasks.
There is a great purpose in your role as a mom and it's up to you whether you'll do something about it or not (and I pray hard you will make the most out of these years you get to have the little ones at home with you.
Starting today, fill your cup with the Truth so that you don’t waste the purpose God has put in you when He made you a mother.