Why You Need a Gospel Community for Your Marriage
In the book Song of Songs, there's a group of friends who rejoiced with and protected the married couple.
We also need such friends in our lives to help celebrate our marriages and help protect them.
We're not meant to do life alone. Especially when it comes to marriage - one of the most important relationships we have - we need all the support we can get.
When we surround ourselves in a Gospel community who cares about our marriages, we have people who:
- speak truth to us, and help us filter out our emotions so we can think logically.
- encourage us, and
- help us and pray for us.
I know for myself that my friends have definitely helped me grow in my marriage during the last 5 years.
If you're not in a Gospel community, I encourage you to seek one.
Here's a couple ways you can plug yourself into Gospel community.
Ways to Plug Yourself into Gospel Community
1) Be involved in a community group with a church that believes in the Gospel
"Shop around" for a church that teaches the Truth - the first step in doing so is to visit their website and read their statement of faith.
Once you've identified churches with sound doctrines, visit them physically and ask them about community groups (or small groups). Try them out and see if
2) Spend time intentionally with friends who believe in the sacredness of marriage
Grant and I spend every Monday evening with our guy friends and girl friends respectively. It's a time set aside for us to connect with them. The structure is super casual - sometimes we just talk about what we're going through, sometimes we read a book together, sometimes we just pray. The point is to spend time together - learning, growing and encouraging each other. I'm very thankful for this group because they've been there for us through the ups and downs and they've definitely spoken truth to me when I needed someone to talk some sense into me.
What to Do When You're in Life Transitions
Maybe you've been in a great Gospel community but you're currently in transitions.
Maybe you've been trying to find solid Christ-centered community but have yet to find one.
If this is the case, I want to encourage you to persevere. Pray for God to put godly women in your life. And then pray again. And again. And again. And again. At the right timing, He will put you in the right community.
While nothing beats real life interactions, an online community can also be a great way to connect with other Christ-centered women when you're in transitions.
We have a private Facebook group called Indwelt Women where women like you get encouragement daily and pray for each other. It's such an awesome community we'd love to have you join us. Become a part of the group here.